At the beginning Maasai beachboy will be very nice to you, gentle, polite, warm and friendly. He will bomb you with "love" at beginning. This behavior he has learned from those who have already caught the mzungu. But it's not their natural behavior. They are not respectful to women because in culture of Maasais the woman hasn't same rights compared to men. We don't complain here about Maasai culture, it's not our business, neither topic of this blog. We are only trying to explain some cultural differences between western culture and people from tribe of Maasais. Woman in Maasai community is not equal to a man - woman has there inferior position. And for Maasais the woman is still just only a woman. If she is white, black, pink or yellow, she's only a woman (not any different special gender) and Maasai men will never respect her.
If a Maasai will be nice, it doesn't mean that he loves you (he does not love you), it just means he needs your money. Easy like this. If he would be visible stupid and mean, you would run away before he would get from you what he wants. This all of them already know. They need to be nice at beginning otherwise they would not catch any white woman.
In the very early stage they also can pay for you little things like bracelets, lunch in local restaurant or motorcycle back to your hotel. But it's only part of their tactics how to hunt you and it will be also the last money/gift you will ever see from them. It's the important step how to catch you and manipulate you in way as they need. Their tactics is always the same. They cannot create their own way how to lie, that's why they will copy those ways, which have been already working before and that's why it's very easy to unhide their game. It's always the same because the scenario is written in advance. It's like their bible they all need read and will follow step by step.
The first bigger change will come after your departure from the country. For this moment they really waited for a long time, because honestly saying - they don't like your company at all ! They like your money but they are really tired of you. They hope in your early departure which will give them their freedom back. And Maasai men really love their freedom more than anything else.
It's what they impatiently expect - to see your butt in the plane. ASAP. One of many reason why they can't survive your company is that white women are VERY different from Maasais girls and wives. Often we don't respect men in general, we don't obey easily and automatically, we have our own head and we have our own money which are giving us freedom. We make always drama for many reasons, we are jealous, we are mostly doing what we want without asking them. In short - the white woman is for a Maasai just the nightmare and disaster. Maasais don't like this behavior, they are not used to face anything like that, they need and expect full respect, so they really don't want and they don't need any white woman next to them. Not for other reason than getting money and creating passive income from her. And for this they need as many white women as possible for getting as many passive incomes as possible. You will be not the first one, not the last one and also not the only one who will support their pockets with your money. You also will hear from Maasai man many times WHAT HE DOESN'T LIKE. He will complain a lot, but you will never hear from him the question - what DO YOU LIKE. He is not interested in that. What he doesn't like you will exactly know because he will inform you about that often, but what you don't like? Who cares? Certainly not a Maasai beachboy.
But let's continue the story. When you will be back home, your beachboy will write you regularly (mostly daily) - the love-bombing phase will still last. But after few days (sometimes weeks) he will suddenly disappear for 3 - 7 days what will be very strange - because it will happen without any warning, without any story before, he will just disappear. But no reason to be worried! After short time he will be back with a fairytale. Most common one is that someone stole his phone in the bush and now he has to write from the phone of his friend - to be able to reach you and inform you about this non-pleasant situation. Some of them will tell you there was no signal in the bush. But you can be very sure - they exactly know where is good signal and you can be also sure nobody stole them their phone. But this disappearing is very important. It will ALWAYS happen and it's the way how they will have proofs that the hunt was successful. If woman will react like "I was so scared that something bad happened to you, I am so happy you are back" - then the hunt was successful and next stage can come. You are caught in the trap already. Sometimes they can also tell you heart-breaking story about injuries from motorcycle and how they spent last days in hospital. They love to manipulate women through the drama. Your attention is for them the proof of successful hunt. After this stage they can start with usage. They must proceed slowly as they don't want to scare you before getting your money.
The usage will first start with the phone. Maasai will tell you that someone stole his phone but he needs the phone to be in contact with you because he loves you :) and he cannot live without you ANYMORE. He can have the newest phone from the last white lover but he will never show you and you will buy him (bring him/send him) new one. So one of those two he can sell. For them money is everything. They would sell own soul without any problem. For money all.
Real usage with asking money from you will follow after:
FIRST STEP - if they are still at Zanzibar and you still didn't pay them the way back, they will ask you money for going home. Real costs is around 60 000 Tsh (25 dollars) including of one night in DAR. But they will ask you big money only because they think you don't have any idea about prices in Tanzania. And they are right, most of women don't know anything about local prices and most of the women AUTOMATICALLY trust all what Maasai scammers will tell them. Mostly they can ask around 500 000 Tsh, what is 10 times more than real price. They will also tell you how impossible is to go directly home, they love DAR (because of cheap Swahili girls at night) and they will need overnight there. But it's completely possible to go home in one day without any night in DAR.
SECOND STEP - they will ask you money for hospital. Very often they will pretend some injury at home and you are that one who will pay for hospital (of course unreal money) or someone from family will be deadly sick, needed just your help. They will send you a lot of pictures, full of blood, broken skin, all the effects. But mostly they use old pictures, or pictures of different black people. You can be sure if hospital costs 30 000 Tsh, they will ask 3 millions from you :) They really can pay 30 000 Tsh for the hospital but rest of your money will go to their pocket. Also fake bills from hospital is no problem. Maasai can buy the bill in hospital where doctor will write him whatever he needs to be written there. For few money only. Then they will send you this fake bill from hospital, nothing is more easy. If you will see the bill from hospital - you can forget about it. If there is more money than 20 000 Tsh - it's fake.
THIRD STEP - you will buy the cattle. Price for one small cow can be around 200 000 Tsh. Big one - double price. The goat around 50 000 Tsh depends on size. Cows are for them very important, only with cows they can have a wife. They have a lot of money in cows. Cows are also the way how to earn money - buying / selling cows is common business there. More cows - more money - more respect - more wives - more children - more money in the future from them. The life cycle of Maasai.
AFTER THIS it's time to start with business. They will try to tell you they need business to be able to stay at home in Tanzania (instead of going back to Zanzibar). They all know very well how jealous white women are, so they know exactly that you don't like to see them at Zanzibar anymore. So you will pay for local business at home but it will not change the situation at the end because still they will always go to Zanzibar as soon as possible and you will not know about that. You will not stop them and one source of money is for them really not enough. More women - more income - more money. They need to work on backup door and they will. There are many ways what they can ask you. But mostly they ask two things: motorcycle or shop in Tanzania
AFTER BUSINESS (sometimes before business) you will be asked for building house with iron roof for him (or for his parents). He will tell you "also for you", having a lot of fun from your stupidity). Of course, it will be only for him. House will be not for you and you can be sure with that. You can even build it for other white women who will come to replace you soon. To own something in Tanzania is not easy, everything you will build there will be written on his name. You will not own anything and it will come a day, he will send you away, and put new mzungu to "your house" and if not new mzungu, then his Maasai wife with his children. All of them are married - having children. Culture will not let them to live in different way. So, it's not your house, it never was your house and it will be never your house. He is the only owner and it will be like that forever. That's it. These people mostly don't have any moral, they will take you all what you have without feeling any sorry. And you can be sure, to get a justice in Tanzania is very difficult, if not impossible. Especially if you are just a tourist. And especially if you let the Maasai to make frauds on you. Police will be laughing only, having fun how stupid you are. Local people see Maasais in different way as you - that's why they will not respect you. They will be not able to understand how someone "normal" could ever fell in the trap with a Maasai. That's why you will be for fun next to Maasai and after all the frauds with him. Police will not take you seriously, how they could once you dated a Maasai ? Few women who are living there for longer, they can in some cases to get justice, at least partly, but someone fresh in Africa will have almost no chance to get money or property back. It will take a lot of time, a lot of contacts and a lot of money. Those who don't live there don't have any chance. In distance it's not possible to do anything. You will loose all your money there easily and you can be sure that nobody will feel sorry for you. Not Maasais, not police, not locals, not government, not those white women who are living there for long time, earning a lot of money on Maasais. You will be lost and alone in your trouble.
AFTER HOUSE he will need the plot for maize farm, and then plot next to plot and other plot also. Plot in the village, plot out of the village, plot for cows, plot for farms, plot for new house. Just one plot is never enough. If you think, you will give money to someone and after you will have paper of ownership with your name - this is not how it can happen. To own something is very difficult, without real project (in way of serious investment) they will not put your name on any paper. "PROJECT" doesn't mean to build the house for you and your Maasai lover. In Tanzania everyone is lying to you, also lawyers. So you will be not sure about anything there. But you can't own the land there easily. But don't forget - the rules about renting or owning plots in Tanzania are different as at Zanzibar. It's different story. It's the same country, but in historical way it was two countries with different culture - life style - rules. It's like that until today. Many things are very different. From rules during the Ramadan - until having the plot.
AND THEN FINALLY SPECTACULAR FINISH and also end of your "love story" - they will manipulate you to make big business like guesthouse in Tanzania or at Zanzibar. Mostly women fortunately will not be able to come so far (they are not rich enough or not stupid and naive enough), only those very silly and blind can go until here ;) Most of women will end somewhere in the middle and will be blocked by their lovers forever, whatever they already gave them. You will NEVER see your money again. All will stay with him and you will not have ANY CHANCE to get your money or property back. Not in Tanzania ! POLICE WILL NOT HELP YOU IN THIS CASE !!!! NOBODY WILL ! So count with that !
ALL money you will give him and all property you will buy him will be his own forever, because white person cannot own almost anything in Tanzania EASILY. It's possible of course but you need a lot of papers, lot of bureaucracy, lot of money and lot of time, so he will tell you it will be more easier to write all on his name and this will be the end for you.
Beachboy will never do anything for white woman. All they are doing for you , they are doing with own goals and for own profits only. It's always a part of the tactics how to get your money and they are the best in this. You are, you were and you will stay only source of his money forever. All what he will do, he will do only for himself and his MAASAI family in the bush. You are not any priority for him and you cannot be. There is no love from his side, no feelings to you, it is only pure usage, manipulation and abuse. All will be just about him. Questions about you - you will never hear. You are just not important. After you next woman will come immediately and then next one and then next one. You are only a number in the very long row.
In the moment you will give him all what you have (and you don't have anymore anything to give him) he will not need you anymore. Next step then will be to replace you.
He will start to make some drama with you and after theatre he will just block you. Here your role has finished already. And here will be end of the "love" story and for him the time for new one. The fresh victim will not have any idea about this game. It is not rare that beachboys have more white women at same time, so all the trips to Zanzibar or to Tanzania have to be well planned to avoid some collisions :-) They don't like any surprises, don't even try that. If you think, you will make him happy if you will come without telling him - you are wrong. It will be day of big drama :) But only for you. For him to loose you doesn't mean a big drama - still he will have others in whatsapp or facebook as backup. If not, he will find on the beach new one.. just tomorrow. Wait for it.
If you will be not nice enough and you will not send him money always when he will ask, he will block you repeatedly (but only for short time). After a while, he will always unblock you because he will not want to loose the wallet. At least NOT NOW. Not until he will get enough money from you :-)
You will be just replaced, because beachboy is not able to earn any money in normal way. No education, no abilities in any crafts and this way is for them the chance how to get big money without any effort. Once they will start (and if you found him on the beach, he started already), they will never stop. Easy money (Your money) will make them to be weak to stop and to go back to normal, moral and honest life.
One of the special method how to get your money is to ask you for the LOAN.
For them the loan means automatically just a GIFT. Once you will give them money, you will never see it again ! (the only little chance you have, if you are living there for a long time or if you are coming back repeatedly). So money will stay with him. And if you will start to ask your money back, he will be VERY VERY angry and he will block you immediately. For him it will be just incomprehensible betrayal, that you are asking YOUR money back. He will not understand. He will not give you your money back and he will know it from beginning. Only one who doesn't know about that is you. Loan is always just a gift. Remember it when he will try to ask you. It's only one of many methods how to get your money and this method is extremely effective. If situation will be really bad and you will not stop to ask, then only one button in their phone (which you gave to them) will be enough to stop this responsibility for the loan forever. He will block you and nothing like loan from you has ever happened to him. Problem solved. How beautiful. How easy. Sometimes someone can really trust he will give you back ONCE. But for them, once can be in 10 years, or in twenty years. They have strong belief, your money are never-ending and also those of them who don't have bad intention with you, will not feel any pressure to give you your money back. They will take a time for giving you your money back. A lot of time.
Also is very important to take you home. There will be everything prepared especially for your visit. And of course he will tell you, you are the first white woman there, you are his first mzungu girlfriend (what will be just next pure lie). Because of language barrier you will not be able to find any truth easily or quickly plus his family members OFTEN will covering his lies. It's not rare that his own wife is taking care about you, knowing exactly all what he is doing with you but she has to be just quiet. You will never know that one was his wife. He will introduce her like his sister who has husband working out of home, or sister who was running back home from violent husband. Or he will tell you she is a wife of his brother. You will never know the truth (until you will start with real and serious investigation - what can be a big problem in two weeks of holiday). With investigation, slowly you will know, step by step you will find all (or many) of his lies, but it will take you many months. But women who are living in Tanzania, especially in the bush for longer time, they know all. Beachboys can hide something for 2 weeks, but not for 2 months. They will be tired soon of acting and they will start to make many small mistakes. Then you will start to understand their game. And you will be shocked. There is always a reason to be shocked.
Taking you home is important because then they will manipulate you easily through children or women. You as white person, you will make strong connection to children and to women in the bush and they know it. Few examples of his manipulation: "That little girl who loves you so much is in hospital with malaria and she is near to death if we will not pay, she will die and now I don't have money to pay" or "My mother is asking me each day when you will come again. She misses you and loves you so much". In the reality, nobody there loves you that much. To be honest - everyone there only needs your money. They have ENOUGH own maasais girls and women for being wives or lovers. They don't need any mzungus for these roles.
100% truth, I have the same experience with them…
ReplyDeleteI got to the business level. need money for new things in his shop. once we went to the stone city. I bought my own fabric. and he asked for a loan of 50,000 shillings. he said come back he will give it to me. Of course he didn't give up. and after that I ate in old mama africa. at local prices and did not pay. a couple of days later he said you were in debt. I said pay yourself I have no money because you took it from me. from that moment the scandals began. refused sex. didn't want to be in public together.
ReplyDeleteif its only money problem - its good... my first masai stole my money and ran away during the night while I was sleeping, until today he is walking the beaches and second one was beating me I ended in hospital .. he was in the prison for very short time only then other masais took him out from there :( .. so masai never more, thank you... they are big disappointment for me, I lost all my passion to Tanzania because of masai from the beaches
ReplyDeleteI am realy sorry to hear that from you ...i have read all the history i feel so bad for those men who show a big problem and show a bad picture to us maasai
DeleteYes those people are from Tanga and morogoro
And they are not really masai..they speak some words but they cant understand each other so much!
Sorry but what ? Maasais from Tanga and Morogoro area are not really Masai and they speak some words but can't understand each other? :)) they can speak a few words of Chinese but about Maa language, they are speaking Maa as it's their native language so I don't understand what you want to say with this "they can say few words". And if they are not really Maasai - then Maasai community should officially mark them and go away of criminals but it's not happening... If they are not really Maasais- who then the people from Tanga region you can meet in houndreds on the beaches at Zanzibar are ? Bantu people ? Arabs ? From which kind of tribe those looser weared in red shukas are ? They are Maasais for sure. Of course, criminals but still Maasais, growing up in the Maasai bush hearding cattle and preparing themselves for future of criminals, robing people, lying, raping and scamming.
DeleteI really have so much to say. All of the bad things are true. I have hated myself for falling for this Maasai plots. I lived with them for so long. I have felt the love of the community. I wish I could tell a different story. I have also seen so many European women who only come for sex tourism. Those women are also evil. I personally came for water sports and didn't know anything. I had planned to open a couple businesses, but I don't want to live in Sodom and gamorra. And my Maasai has drained me and beaten me so badly. The police were very corrupted and demanded sex in exchange for helping me. I refused them and then they let him go and threatened me for not giving them sex. So sad. I had such good intentions. I am so lost right now. I am feeling stupid but I know about their black magic from living with them. it is very powerful. All my education, and life experience and love from my family has failed to keep me safe from myself and my heartbreak.
Deletewait, I don't understand now. Police ?! Police was asking SEX from you for helping you in your issues with the Maasai ??? Wow... this never ever happened to me... are you sure it was a real and legal police ? Many times many people are pretending to be the police but they are not.. Tell here more about this your story please. With the police.
DeleteWhat is missing here, in my opinion, is that they will ask for money for food, because „work is not good“, „not many tourists“ etc. Most they tell you they haven‘t eat the whole day. And how can you know when you are not there? They can even send you photos from the empty beach, you will never know when the photo was taken or also who made the picture. Most of the time you can be sure they have enough money for EVERYTHING they like, for example party, clothes, sunglasses, jewelry.. Even if they wouldn‘t have money for food other maasai help them. They often share their food.
ReplyDeleteNo matter how much you warned these woman some insist in repeating the same pattern over and over , they just leave a maasai relationship when slapped in the face with the truth of them having a wife and children and these woman moves to the next maasai to repeat the same story. They will not listen , even that you explain all scenarios , the worse is because of the maasai lack of education very rarely are tested for STD’s and they are spreading the Papiloma Virus.
ReplyDeleteyou're right. Several girls I know have been infected by the Maasai with gonorrhea and scabies. These are very common illnesses in beachboys. This is despite the fact that these girls flew to Zanzibar to their regular Masai boyfriends, whom they have been dating for years. You probably know where the beachboys who are not included in the TOP sleep?))) Where the night will find you. Mostly they sleep in cafes on chairs or deck chairs, in unfinished houses, wherever their Masai acquaintances work as security guards. The Maasai also use the services of local prostitutes. It's very cheap. But the consequences for the white "wife" will be very sad
DeleteYou need to be very careful with these guys, you know HPV (the Human Papilloma Virus) can spread despite wearing a condom (which I think most of them don't wear anyway), and some variants can cause cancer... It's hard to imagine going through all these troubles, spending so much money, time, energy, feelings, just to get a lot of stress and diseases in return 🤷.
DeleteHaha, it is very funny to read this, as most of it is soooo recognizable! I am 2 years further (after breakup), and now very happy that I made the step out of my miserable life in Europe and grateful for all that happened. Money is just money, and a broken heart heals, but these guys really know how to gaslight & manipulate. I think I am not able to fully trust another person after this experience, but I am still grateful for all the experiences.
ReplyDeleteIt definately works like that. I was many times in ZNZ and Mainland but always kept off this beachboys or any other. Till last time and even my brain complain did the mistake to Fall in love and paid some help. After we spent 1 week together i saw his true face. After my return he not talk anymore so i guess after few days he might come for another request. I will give him a right answer.
Deleteeverything that is drawn here is all true, they have one scenario for all of us, my massai noticed me on nungvi, and he immediately took me into circulation, I was in Zanzibar for the first time, He sometimes came to my beach, but mostly we met in the evenings, we went to a disco, and yes, he spent money on I'm going, I dug his red rags for him,did my hair, then asked for money to go home, he loves me so much and he has nothing to do on the beach without me, and I gave him $ 200, then I flew home, he wrote then everything disappeared as it is written here, even when I was at the hotel, he climbed my pockets, but the money was in the safe)) Fool, he was unlucky.but then when I was at home, he asked me to buy him a motorcycle,I asked him how much he said $ 1,500, to which I replied, sorry, I don't have that kind of money and promised to buy it later, he managed for a while, then I made transfers to him for $ 100 for food for medicine, everything according to the script, but the thought of a motorcycle I didn't leave him, and he made up a story that the boy was shot down and if I don't give him this money, his brother and then another friend wrote to me, in general, they took over me with the whole village of cyberashi, this mafia is real, I said senya doesn't have that kind of money and I know he's lying that there's no stories that this is extortion since he wants a matocycle, he disappeared for 10 days then showed up ahaha I say how did you get out of prison ? he said they paid for it and sold cows)) of course I'm not too stupid, I didn't believe him, massai buys cows and then he sold it, he wrote to me disappeared and always sent money, I said I don't have them, go work, in my country men don't give money and not long ago a girl invited me to a chat and there was his photo as a professional massai ,I wrote it all to him and blocked it, and now of course I know all their manipulations and it will be difficult for them to deceive me, you can have sex with them by promising to send them money later, having arrived in the country, just block it))) women love themselves and appreciate do not succumb to extortionists they will cause
ReplyDeleteOh please, how stupid can women be.
ReplyDeleteIf you would have known and respected their culture in the first place and leave them alone, the Maasai would not have started to manipulate you.
:))))))) what ? :) Maasais would not have started to manipulate us ? :) in which kind of universe are you living please ? Maasais would do ALL POSSIBLE for money ! All possible... It's not about unrespect to culture, they are fucking loosers not able to earn money by themselves.
DeleteMafia methods, right. Gazlightning, lies about emergencies, manipulation, silent treatment, terror...NO friendship.
ReplyDeleteYes, 💯 mafia. I heard that from the x Muzungu of my Maasai. But she is also a criminal and ran to Africa from Europe with stolen money. I didn't believe her and I was not afraid. But they are Mafia. The police will not hold them, no matter the crime. The police also hate muzungu. They hate Maasai too, but not as much as they hate Muzungu. They allow Maasai to be bailed out of jail for free. No consequences for Maasai.
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