JEALOUSY IN THE WORLD OF BEACHBOYS

 The jealousy in relationship is very common and we know it also from Europe. Sometimes people believe that where is a jealousy there is the love. So can maasai beachboys be jealous and is that jealousy the same as we know it?

If you are in the relationship with a maasai beachboy, you really can see the behavior which is possible to define as "jealousy" . Let's describe those situations:

1. Maasai beachboy doesn't like to see you to speak with others

   This situation is very common especially if you will visit him in the bush, at his home. There all your movements have to be under his control or at least under the control of someone from his family. Mostly some of his brothers have to follow you, wherever you will go. Also during the day, during the daily light :) If you will try to tell that it's ok and you can stay for a while alone, he will tell you that you can't stay alone because it's very dangerous for you to stay alone in the middle of village or in the bush. The truth is that it's dangerous only for him. The villages in Tanzania like Kwediboma or Kiberashi, even town like Handeni are safe places, not dangerous at all, especially not during the day. With this "your heart touching care" your beachboy will kill 2 flies with one hit. First of all, you will feel like he takes care about you, he is afraid that something bad can happen to you, he loves you that's why he protects you so much in foreign and very dangerous world. :) On other side, nobody will be brave enough to tell you truth about him once his family member is somewhere close to you. If this would happen and someone from the village would try to warn you, his relatives who is following you would call your beachboy immediately and then that person who would try to warn you would be in the really big trouble. To warn a mzungu means to try take mzungu away of him, what they take as a crime and if he will complain to leader, it can lead also to the maasai court. So nobody needs this trouble there. This is the only reason why you cannot go anywhere alone. Because someone could warn you. So behind this heartbreaking "carrying" is nothing like jealousy or the fear that something will happen to you. He only needs to keep you uninformed, without any knowledge about him. The last thing he needs is that someone from village would inform you that other mzungu left the house of your beachboy just few days ago. :) Your visit in the bush is well planed and expected and all the details are carefully thought out. He will never let you be alone in the bush with the goal to protect you from information you really don't need to know :)

BUT THIS IS NOT JEALOSY AS WE KNOW IT. IT'S JUST ONLY HIS FEAR FROM DISCLOSURE AND THE CONTROL WHICH THEY REALLY LOVE TO HAVE.

2. Maasai beachboy will tell you "Don't trust others, trust only me!" 

   In the case you would be alone for 5 seconds and someone would try to tell you the truth about your beachboy, they have backup door for this situation :) Sometimes can happen that you will be informed and of course what you will do first is  you will to  confront your beachboy with new information. His reaction will be always the same. He will tell you that you cannot trust ANYONE and only person in whole the Africa you can trust is just him. Because only HE has good intention with you. All others want to hurt you, to cheat on you, to steal your money, to fuck you, to rape you, and especially all of people in Tanzania want just steal you from him because they are all jealous. :) Your beachboy will tell you "Whatever you will hear about me is pure lie ! Remember, they all lie to you, you can only trust ME and nobody else ! Never trust anyone, they all are bad and jealous people"

THIS AGAIN IT'S NOT ANY JEALOUSY, IT'S JUST A WAY HOW TO PROTECT ALL HIS LIES.

3. Maasai beachboy will try to convince you that he is afraid to loose you.

For him you are just easily replaceable person. Remember this very easy fact. Everyone can buy him, that's only a question of the price how much someone else will pay for him. If it will be more than you are giving him, he will replace you, or at least he will start to cheat on you. They are definitely not scared they can loose you, but they are very scared and jealous, that you could pay money to some other maasai. They are very jealous in this way. The situation that you would spent your money with other maasai means for him just very uncomfortable feeling and because of this, he really can be jealous, but not in the way of relationship, or love, but because someone else is using his money. Your money is automatically his money and his money is only his money. If he will catch you once, you become his property.

The most funny are the courts which can happen in the middle of bush. If some other maasai will steal you out of your beachboy, he can complain in serious way and then it will be court. Maasai court. About YOU, without YOU, because you are already a property of someone, you even don't know about it. And that guy who stole you can also pay a fine. So absurd that it's hard to believe, but yes, in the maasai bush is this very possible. You are taken forever. You are just a thing. He can give up the fight about you, then you will be free again. 

ONCE AGAIN IT'S NOT ANY JEALOUSY, IT'S JUST A FEAR OF LOOSING HIS MONEY HE HAS IN YOU.

So there is probably no jealousy in maasai bush as we know it. All that feeling of jealousy, all that effort to protect you is only the effort to protect the property. In the way of love, he doesn't feel anything to you, that's why he can't be jealous. He has his wife at home, she is important and not easily replaceable, not you.