I decided to publish comment I accidentally found in the discussion under article "The change must come from us" and despite it's there for long time already, I have never noticed it and I have never read it. Until now. It's written by the Maasai, I don't know if man or a woman. It's a very big point there but still - Maasais you can meet normally at beach actually don't and can't think in that way. The author of the comment signed himself/herself as a Maasai so let's believe in that. There is nothing to add, maybe only be aware that to reach with a Maasai what is written there, some kind of equal level of thinking, being and feeling, will be very tough. VERY TOUGH, near impossible, but it's the only way which can theoretically work in small percentage. More likely you have this chance with the Maasai studying in DAR at universtity, but guys from the beach, knowing only Maasai bush and having that mentality... Very unlikely it can happen with a Maasai who is already at beach hunting mzungus, tasted easy money at least at once. It's exactly how that guy/girl is writing. I would not write it better.
"Let me tell you something guys, Love is blind we all know that. There's nothing like black magic.
You were born and raised in Europe it's typically different from where you came to find a new love, probably a hopeless place.
In your childhood, you had a boyfriend, you met in both love and level. The level means a lot here, like the same thinking capacity, the same dimensions on things, and life goals.
You came to Africa, you met a new love out of blindness, exactly knowing you two coming from two very different levels of life, two different thinking capacities, two different life goals, and two different cultures or beliefs.
Do you think, love only can keep you two forever? Do you think your body satisfaction can validate your blindness for a lifetime? The answer is NO!
Sorry for my bad English, I'm trying hard, I'm a Maasai too.
100% of open relationships between Maasai guys and white women we see on social media are faked, they are not happy at all, they act happy just to get viewers engaged and keep it looking good outside but inside there are a lot of struggles.
Establishing love is one thing, which is actually automatic, we all fall in love maybe being out of control, out of lust of the flesh, or whatever... but keeping it into motion to last is another thing; It's a struggle, yes it is.
WHERE ARE WE FAILING? We failing to create the SAME LEVEL OF UNDERSTANDING so we can create EQUAL LOVE. You met uneducated guy, never knows what's really love means, struggling for food, lying as a habit of survival, always dreaming to sleep on those five stars hotels, immature and yet you expecting things to be the same as your old love in Europe/America/Oceania etc. Nothing can be offered to you apart from sex which is sometimes rough too.
It can't be the same, it can't be the same because your life goals, things, perceptions, optimism, enthusiasm, and passion are typically different. Very different and equality cannot be created by love only. Too bad, there's NO SHORTCUT.
WHAT TO DO? When LOVE is automatically created, try to create a new MINDSET to your partner. Build your partner. NEVER GIVE MONEY, NEVER SHOW YOUR MONEY, NEVER CELEBRATE HIM AS AN ACHIEVEMENT, NEVER TAKE HIM FOR A DRINK, NEVER ASK THEIR PROBLEMS, NEVER BE COMPASSIONATE, COORDINATE WITH YOUR BRAIN IN EVERYWHERE YOUR HEART TAKES YOU until you are satisfied that you two are in the same level of understanding, thinking, and you two can look love from the same direction.
Create the LEVEL by educating your partner, especially formal education send him to school and follow to know if he is really going, create a manner so he can understand the value of money, not just be a spender. Let him know that all you have doesn't come from the sky, there was a lot of struggles in the past. Let him know and understand that he did not meet an angel or a miracle from heaven, you are a human and he can be like you if he's ready to learn.
Make him a mature man, not just a beach boy. You can do this by trying to ask him 'unnecessary' advices, listen to him and change him slowly. WIN HIM but don't take a man role, be a wise woman. You will thank me later.
Yes, it's hard work but you can't be on the same perceptions if you can't do that. Birds of the feather flock together."
yes, it's truth but I think the reason why this blog was created wasn't to find the way how to change Maasais and press them to adapt our values, habits or way of life / way of love, but to warn women who are blindly and naive in relationship with a Maasai that it's not going anywhere. There is no future with a Maasais but struggeling whole the time. Maasais will not change themselves and for sure not because of white women. But what I personally see as needed is to be informed about this, to be informed about who Maasais are and be informed about there is no future for us next to a Maasai man. First of all, all those at beach are immature egocentric children - really there is nothing that white woman can expect from them (except of sex). And second - also if you will be very very lucky and you will meet normal Maasai - there will be a lot of struggles and really bad nights full of tears and misunderstandings, and maybe in 1 % of cases can happen what is written here. But chance is very very small, with Maasais it's small. Maybe some people from Moshi, or maybe Maasais from Arusha, but Maasais from Tanga region, sorry, they are too spoiled already and not openminded at all, their relationship to a Mzungu is deeply defined in the clan - everybody knows the purpose, why that mzungu is near to them. Money. And everyone will know, her presence in boma is very temporary. Only person who doesn' t know will be you. :) that feeling that everyone in the bush, every single small child will look at you with lauging how foolish you are. Oh
ReplyDeleteyou really do believe that a Maasai was writing this comment?! come on…hahahahaha there is not one single soul who speaks so fluent and they are all not educated, there is a white woman behind this lol
ReplyDeletethis is not truth, some of them are high educated, having degrees from universities.. It's simply not truth they are all not educated. The only question is if a Maasai can really think in this deeper way. Deeper way in understanding things.
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